Friday, May 31, 2013

You're not alone!

As I have continued to blog about different cancer subjects over the past year occasionally I will hear from others who have fought the cancer fight or have helped someone get through the battle.

Some people have a tremendous amount of support from family and friends. But some fight the fight by themselves for the most part with no family or close friends to assist them.

One of my mothers friends (JoAnn Carroll) reached out to me to explain some of her feelings from her battle with breast cancer.

I did not have the support that you gave your wife.

Divorced and on my own was very hard.

My cancer was found the day before I received
my church mission call.  The surgeon told me to go back to Virginia
to have the surgery because there was a lot of
post care. But living away from most of my support was hard.

My sons acted like this was nothing as they did not phone
or send a card or flowers. People are embarrassed and don't want to talk about it.

This August I will be taken off the Femera and have one office visit and one mammogram
per year.

My Doctor told me sometimes breast cancer comes back, when it does it usually comes in the
third year after the surgery.  So I sailed through that.  Good thing she did not tell me that
until I was in the fifth year.

I still worry and wonder.  I tell very few people. I have a few friends that have been a support to
me and let me vent once in a while and I try not to dwell on it.  I think of it every day and hope
I can stay strong.
I have survived but there were a lot of times I
wondered how or why I would get through it.

But I did! 

I have nothing but the utmost respect for those that have battled through cancer and I appreciate JoAnn for sharing her story.

We can all do a better job reaching out to others to offer love and support as they go through their battle.

That is my hope!

1 comment:

  1. Great post Carson! I agree that we all can do a better job of offering love and support for those in the fight. Even though medicine has progressed leaps and bounds, having a great support system comprised of friends, family, and care staff can make a world of difference. I did have a question about your blog and was hoping you could email me back when you get the chance. Thanks so much for sharing!